What To Do When People Criticize You

Do you know what to do when people criticize you?

In this video, I’ll explain 5 ways to deal with criticism.

Aristotle once said: “There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”

If fear of criticism prevents you from expressing yourself or trying new things, then you’re stopped before you’ve even begun.

Without a plan to deal with criticism, you may end up spending huge amounts of time trying to meet everyone’s expectations. 

What I’ve learned is: no matter how hard you try, you simply aren’t going to please everyone. Plus, there are much better things for you to do with your time, anyways.

So now, I use these five strategies to sidestep un-constructive criticism, and stay on the path of my best life. 

The final strategy I’ll share is a simple mindset shift that will help you stay resilient in the face of any criticism, no matter who it’s coming from! 

So here are my five strategies for what to do when people criticize you:

1. Ask yourself if any part of it is constructive and will help you on your path. If it is, and it’s aligned with your goals, then you can learn from it, and appreciate the opportunity to grow. If the criticism is not constructive and doesn’t feel authentic to you: dismiss it, because ultimately, outside sources don’t know what’s best for you- only you can know that.

2. Don’t try to explain or justify yourself. It’s natural to feel like you need to respond to criticism, but I’m telling you, it’s a waste of your energy. Let them have their opinion, because chances are, despite your best effort you’re not going to be able to change it anyway. You need to spend your limited time and energy on the things you want to grow in your life.

3. Remember, the judgements of others tell you more about THEM than they do about YOU. Trust your instinct about where their criticism is coming from. Are they trying to boost their own self esteem by knocking you down? Are they trying to control you? Or is it possibly their own fears that are coming through? In any of those cases, remind yourself that their judgements are about them, and not in your best interest.

4. Realize that most people who criticize others are unhappy, or they’ve been criticized themselves and they’re passing it on as one of their learned behaviors. In other words, “Hurt people hurt people.” With that in mind, don’t take anything they’re saying personally, and see if you can tap into a little bit of compassion in those cases.

5. This brings us to my quick mindset shift that will help you stay resilient in the face of any criticism. As of now, there are almost 7.9 billion people in the world, and it’s just not realistic for them all to approve of you, or as I like to say, “be one of your people.” So whenever you encounter criticism from a negative or toxic person, see if you can shift your mindset into one of gratitude, and say to yourself, “Thank you for showing me that you are not one of my people, so I can focus on those who are.”

I’d love to know: what’s your favorite way to deal with criticism? Let me know in the comments. 

Thanks and I’ll see you next time!

About Me

Hi, I’m Bekah! I’m a Transformational Life Coach, Founder of Irie Life Coaching, and Creator of the Reinvent My Reality Program. I help people who are unfulfilled overcome deeply subconscious self-limiting beliefs, negative thought patterns, and unreasonable fears and doubts, so they can reignite their passions and begin living an authentic life filled with meaning and purpose.

My mission is to help others consciously create the life they desire, instead of living on autopilot, settling by default, or living a life decided by outside expectations.

Want to know my top life-changing hacks? Download the free Bring Your Passions to Life Challenge to rediscover what brings you joy and makes you feel passionate, which is vital for finding the purpose that will allow you to feel fulfilled. 

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