In this video, you’ll learn how to achieve balance by using self-care.
I think that a lot of people are noticing that the approach of always being on “go,” and doing more, and pushing harder, and working longer just isn’t sustainable.
That type of “grind it out” mentality doesn’t work in the long run. It’s actually a recipe for stress, exhaustion and burnout.
So I’m excited to talk with you about how you can avoid that cycle, and at the end of this video and article, I’ll share my top life hack for creating a self-care strategy that works for you.
It seems like the idea of accomplishing and achieving more and more, at your own expense is everywhere in our society.
And it’s common for people to think that focusing on their own self-care is selfish and should be avoided.
That concept affects everyone, but I think it’s especially hard on women who are told to be self-sacrificing caregivers.
And not only that, many women feel that they’re expected to be nurturers and breadwinners and beauty queens all at the same time.
So it’s no wonder that many of us fall into the trap of striving and achieving at our own expense.
For so many years, that “work harder, push harder, do more” mentality was the only way I knew how to live, and I was so focused on productivity and output that I didn’t even know what balance felt like.
I was spread so thin, that I wasn’t showing up the way I wanted to at home, with my friends, or at work.
I was plowing through and not noticing the signals telling me that I was out of balance, like feeling stressed, tired, or irritated.
Now, I know to pay attention to those cues telling me to slow down, and even better, to make my self-care a priority so I don’t even get to that point.
That was a hard shift to make, because after doing some reflection I noticed I had a pattern of over-giving.
That tends to be common for people with a very compassionate nature. And don’t get me wrong, it’s great to want to help other people, but you’re no good to anyone if you’re burned out.
I love the saying, to “Fill your own cup first because you can’t pour from an empty cup,” and as they say on the airlines, “You need to put on your own oxygen mask first, before helping others with theirs.”
Back when I was always on “go,” self-care was the last thing on my to-do list, and I’d never get to it, because by the time I finished with all my other tasks, I had no energy left.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that when I do prioritize my self-care, it gives me more energy to do all the other things I need to do in my day.
Now, self-care looks different for everyone. You might take a nap, have a long bath, take a mindful walk in nature, do yoga or stretching, read, journal, or meditate- the list goes on.
What’s important is that it’s something you enjoy that energizes you.
Now obviously, you don’t have to do all your self-care activities every day.
You can create a daily routine or a weekly schedule- my only words of caution about that though are to make sure that your self-care doesn’t become another thing that you feel like you have to do.
It should be something that you want to do in order to have the most benefit.
Which brings me to my top life hack for creating a self-care strategy that works for you:
First, make a list of things that you consider to be self-care activities.
Then, carve out at least a half an hour every day to do one of those things. Get in the habit of tuning in and asking yourself what it is you need the most, and then do that thing.
This type of plan has flexibility built into it, which has been very effective for me, and my clients as well.
Keep in mind that your self-care doesn’t have to be perfect. Even if you can’t fit it in every day, aiming for five days a week is still enough to make a big difference in your energy level and your satisfaction.
Because in the end, success and achievements do you no good if you sacrifice your well-being for them. You need to have the time and capacity to enjoy those things.
I hope this helps you bring some balance into your days. Let me know in the comments how this works for you!
Hi, I’m Bekah! I’m a Transformational Life Coach, Founder of Irie Life Coaching, and Creator of the Reinvent My Reality Program. I help people who are unfulfilled overcome deeply subconscious self-limiting beliefs, negative thought patterns, and unreasonable fears and doubts, so they can reignite their passions and begin living an authentic life filled with meaning and purpose.
My mission is to help others consciously create the life they desire, instead of living on autopilot, settling by default, or living a life decided by outside expectations.
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